A Man Who Loves His Woman

"One month after we got married, my husband was fired from his job. We were newly married. Wedding was debt free & we used the money we got in gifts to pay down student loans. That left us with a whopping $1500 in our accounts between the two of us. $1000 in mine and $500 in his.

Fired with $500 in his bank account. That left me with $1000 in mine but I still had a biweekly paycheck because I was working. I will never forget the day he was let go. It was not like a usual day. He barely spoke to me all day and in the afternoon he texted. We have a rule..

No important things are discussed by text (that’s another post for another day) but I will never forget the text “hey babe, we need to talk and it’s not a text conversation. Can I call you right now?” I knew this was serious so I excused myself to talk I called him.

Before I could utter a hello he broke down & told me he got fired out of nowhere. He kept saying “I don’t know what I’ll do if you l leave. Give me time to find another job & provide”. I had never seen him so afraid. He kept begging me to come home and that he would figure it out

I was baffled because leaving had never even crossed my mind! In my mind as soon as I heard the “fired” I started calculating how much overtime I could swing to carry us and our church mortgage. Oh yeah, my husband pastors a church. The whole idea that pastors steal money is wild

We were paying several of our church’s bills. Because that’s what you do when there’s a need. Anyway, I told my manager I had an emergency at home and left. I came home to him crying & I realized this deeply hurt him because he was used to providing and always had done so. Now a month later, that was being snatched and things were about to get shaky. We would struggle a bit. 

However, never in my mind did I think about leaving. In fact, I got another job. For better or worse was imprinted on my soul. So we had dinner that night.

We didn’t have a kitchen table so we sat on our pull out couch and ate Wendy’s. He said “babe, I know it doesn’t seem like it right now but we can come back from this. I just need a little time. Please just give me time. To which my question was obvious- how much time. He said he didn’t know but he gave me his word that it would happen and my dream of being a stay home wife would happen. Dreams are funny little things. They require work to become reality. And that’s what we did. We worked together. And I never once spoke down to him.

He just needed time and for me to trust. Fast forward, everything he promised, he made good on. The moral of this is that a man who loves his woman never forgets how she was there when he lost everything. When he is in the position to, he will later give her everything and more." - @adarathexplorer